The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011

I'm blaming any typo on the fact that I am writing this on a smart phone keyboard. Athols advice is on point. I just got married; it's the second time, and simply wanted to see his point of view. As I read the book, I realized that these are all things me and my friends always did when we were in our 20s. It's a good thing to be reminded especially after 18 years in the aftermath of a failed marriage that has succeeded in suppressing a whole lot of nessecary relationshipAlpha behavior. The funny thing is that at work I am the Alpha...at home I had become compromised in the attempt to keep a marriage together without recognizing all of those "tests" for what they are. The key message that I received, even though it may not have been intended, was that even though society and our women may act as if we are supposed to become "betaized" (Athols and others terminology from the so-called "manosphere"), it is clear to me that it is not makes the majority of relationships stay healthy. It seems that for the most part , he has it right but I can't help but to think he has simplified things greatly. He also seems to be quite clear that some marriages need to end. I agree; but, again, it sometimes is not quite that simple. It is noted however that this is not supposed to be a book on how to end a marriage . For those who have found themselves made "wimpy" by the expectations of society as well as the perception that their wives need us to be that way, his book is key. Beware not to become a misogynist though. One thought: Implementing what Athol is espousing will require a great amount of self discipline as well as hard work on oneself. My experience has been that he is majorly correct ; especially since I recently, in the last 3 years, went through the transformation that he discusses. For me, it started out of raw need; I was out of shape, he'd forgotten how to attract by merely relying on my presence and was too eager to do what any reasonably sucessful man with a good salary tends to do: emphasize his immediate and visible trappings thinking that it will attract women. Well it does, but for reasons that, as Athol explains, many will regret. It makes you only as useful or 'dersireable' as far as your money will go. It is much more awe-inspiring, confidence building, easier, hotter, fascinating and intriguing to do it the primitive way. That is, be more of a man, unapologetically masculine. This may mean herd work for those who 'need' this book. But it is worth it. You will be awkward at first. You will make mistakes. You might get discouraged. But the first time some hot woman turns her head to look at you walk by, the first time some chick at work touches your arm while talking about nothing that warrants it, the first time in a long time your wife acts overtly 'submissive' to you, you will know that you are on he right path.At 55 years old, I would never imagined that women firm 25 to 65 often, very often, make small,talk with me. Once when I went to the DMV to pay for a ticket that I forgot to pay, a very attractive 35-ish, fit, MARRIED WOMAN, sitting two empty chairs away asked some dumb question. As I answered an as our conversation advanced, she literally moved to sit next to me. Before we parted ways, she had given me her business card with her personal cell phone scribbled on it. Now, I am happily married but it is unquestionably satisfyin to realize, over and over, that you are desired by all kinds of women, randomly, just because you are what you are. Some may or may not achieve this quite so blatantly and directly. It depends on your natural self. But rest assured, I believe that every name can do better; if you try hard enough you will increase your desirability from your wife, at a minimum.Realize this: if your wife is even medium hot, she's getting all kinds of attention from men other than you and that she has way more opportunity to stray than you do.Part of what this book is about is flipping that script. Ensuring that she sees you as attractive to other women and as a consequence keeps her own game tight win you, making hose other guys fundamentally irrelevant.You will have to take my word for this since I can't prove it to you and there is no video, but since having reasonably effective mastery of the tenets in the book, while in the dating pool, sex, every mans motivation for many things, has been handed to me. I never chased, only attracted, and intrigued...and enjoyed, mutually. It would have been wonderful to have had this concise recipe at the time - it would have given me even more motivation with less trial and error out there during my initial middle -aged dips into in the dating pool. It is an amazing thing to see how women , single as well as married, respond to me even when I am not remotely trying to attract them. Another example: today I was on a tour bus with another family. The wife could not stop touching me in conversation that I did not initiate. I actually began talk more and more with the husband . As I did she insisted on finding every opportunity to get my attention back. Two things: 1) that marriage is in trouble and 2) women are clearly driven by something g even they don't understand. It's fundamentally primal. Get this book and start your journey to freedom in areas that don't even have to do with sex in your marriage.

Coming from a woman's perspective, this book hit RIGHT ON with the problems I was having being attracted to my husband. It actually tells men how to make their wives want them. It's written by a man, for men, and I appreciated that because the author gave examples with his own relationship with his wife on his daily interactions that work to help her lust after him. It made it much more concrete and real-life to us as the readers.Not only does the book talk about why I was feeling less attracted to my very physically fit, tall, extremely athletic, highly intelligent, well-maintained, loving husband, but it gave specific steps for him to take in order to make me go crazy for him again. I had no idea it was as easy as him becoming more of an alpha-male at home with me. I knew I wanted him to be more assertive in the bedroom and generally in our married life together by making more or most of the decisions such as where we're going to eat or what we're going to do this weekend, but no matter how many times and ways I tried to tell him this, it didn't seem to compute because he's so polite with me and that's how he showed me love. This book not only explains to a man why and how to be assertive with women, but also has anecdotes of the author's personal relationship with his wife on little playful interactions and flirtation that a lot of men like my husband didn't do and didn't think to do. The author was able to put into words and communicate to my husband in a fun, comical way, what I could not, in explaining what I really wanted and needed in a man.Be forewarned, the author sort of blames women for their unhappiness in the marriage and points the finger at women for helping to "create" men they won't desire. It wasn't until I read further, that I had to agree with him. I am one of those women who thought that by "training" my husband to do more chores around the house and by getting him to be more domesticated, nurturing and sensitive in our relationship, I'd be happier. Even though it's clear the book is meant for men to read, I couldn't help but read most of it myself. I decided to stop reading about 80 pages from the end because I didn't want to know, in advance, what alpha "sex moves" my husband may try on me. I love surprises! I must also say that just the act of reading the book turned me on to my husband more before he even attempted the new improved alpha-male with me.This book concentrates on telling you the truth and giving you common sense, logical solutions to the problems. It may not be what appeals to some women's sensitivities and feminist-minded viewpoints. In other words, it's not politically correct, but I liked that! I've read those types of books and nothing helped my situation. I truly believe my husband needed to be "de-programmed" from the feminist mindset he was raised in and made to understand that his instincts about how to take the lead and give a few orders as the head of the family with our kids as well as with me, while also showing me his love (which he already knew very well how to do, are natural and good for our relationship. Don't get the wrong impression. The author isn't condoning any kind of abuse or jerk mentality, he's just stating the facts - that most women want and need to be dominated in their sexual relationships in order to be truly content and turned on sexually.I plan on recommending this book to any and all of my friends complaining about their relationships / marriages. It really was a life-saver!

This book is not very complex or demanding of the reader and contains a plethora of common-sense theorems that any thinking man should not go without. Even if you're relationship is already good, this book is very helpful in giving ideas and tips on how to keep it going well and for the man to continue attracting his wife. I was very enthusiastic (and so was my wife) when I learned that the main premise of the book is for the man to improve himself as the primary factor in improving his sex life. When it comes down to it, that is all you can really do and the author is very blunt about it but the axiom makes every tip worth attempting.I recently began utilizing some of the methods of this book and it has had a very positive effect on my wife; she was always a horny girl but she is 10x hornier now that I've implemented some of the sage wisdom of the book.My only real complaint about the book would be its structure. It just looks like the author compiled his blog posts into the book, which is OK and works, but it makes the book feel less organized holistically. I'm not sure how the author could have improved on this, but it is something for the new reader to adjust to when they read the book.

Useful reading for those interested in taking their relationship to the next level. Although the book mixes biological aspects that drive everyone's behavior, it is quite generic since individuals are all unique, and there aren't identical rules applying to all.

Hier lernt Mann, was kaum einer zu sagen wagt. Entscheidend für das Gelingen von Beziehungen ist, dass der Mann seine anfänglich attraktive Männlichkeit nicht verliert und mit der indirekten Kommunikation von Frauen adäquat umgehen kann.

Bon livre

A very good book

Well written. Humour keeps you connected, while author hammers into you some very imp aspects of life. It's really upto you to do it ultimately, but thank you for guidance. Have changed my life dramatically