The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About

I bought The Let Them Theory for myself while navigating a difficult relationship with a narcissistic parent, and this book genuinely opened my eyes. It offers grounded, practical principles that helped me reframe how I respond to behavior I can’t control—and that shift alone has been incredibly freeing. The core message is simple but powerful: stop trying to manage other people’s reactions and focus on your own boundaries, expectations, and peace. Rather than pushing toxic positivity or unrealistic solutions, the book stays rooted in emotional realism. It helped me recognize patterns, detach from unnecessary conflict, and approach the relationship with more clarity and less emotional exhaustion. What really surprised me was how useful this book became for more than just one relationship. My wife and I read it together, and it sparked meaningful conversations about boundaries, communication, and how we show up in all kinds of challenging relationships—family, work, and friendships. It gave us a shared language and practical tools we could actually apply day to day. If there’s one thing I wish, it’s that I had discovered this book sooner. Some readers may already be familiar with similar concepts, but the way they’re explained here feels accessible, validating, and easy to implement without feeling clinical or overwhelming. Overall, this is a thoughtful, empowering read that can genuinely change how you navigate difficult relationships. Highly recommended for anyone dealing with emotionally challenging family dynamics or trying to protect their peace without guilt.

This is an excellent book and I am so glad it was recommended to me by my therapist. The concepts are easy to understand and very practical, and it really helped shift my perspective in a healthy way. It is one of those books that makes you pause and reflect on your own habits and boundaries without feeling overwhelming or preachy. I found it genuinely helpful and would recommend it to anyone who is working on personal growth or emotional well being

This book provides clarity in human relationships pertaining to workplace, family, and social circles. Author Mel Robbins explains the human tendency of needing to belong and bond, having personal freedoms and space to make informed choices, and providing coping strength to not feel over burdened due to work or perceived social obligations or human stereotypes. "Let Them", "Let Me" is a series of strategies/skills that help one regain focus on finite time and energies to have more productive personal relationships and work outcomes. The book teaches one to de-prioritize things and channel emotions into actionable goals to set healthy boundaries in selection of friends, career paths, and effectively resolving conflicts. Some chapters are overly redundant (and precludes a fifth star rating); however, it's a worthwhile book that definitively helps me set more impactful goals in 2026 and beyond.

This book really changed the way I think about people and situations. It’s easy to read and very helpful for personal growth and peace of mind. I highly recommend it.

Mel Robbins has done it again. And to start this I will say I am a big Mel fan. I have read her other books and audibles, my favorite is Take Control of your life. So I'm a longterm fan I also listen to her podcat. With that in mind my expectations were high for Let Them especially because Mel said it's the best thing she's created and OPrah gave it really high praise. I had oredered the book but it didn't come yet so I got the kindle version here to start reading it, I can't wait for my phsical book too but I didn't want to wait because I wanted to read it, now that i'm done I'm going to get the audiobook too. Okay - so you are probably wondering, if I heard the podcast on it, do I still need this? The answer is YES. i just love the book. It covers so much. Way more thna I was expecting? The big reveal of let them AND let me makes this so deep and it covers so many different parts of your life you can use it. Yes you can get 'say let them" after a chapter but Mel takes the theory into so many siotuations and shares so much research and ways to use it, I kept learning so much. My favorite is the sections about family. I was with my family over the holidays and could not stop saying LET THEM. I told everyone to let them. I told evertyone about this book! They may be sick of me saying let them... to that I say let them. My favorite section of the book though is the part about INFLUENCE. So I say let them, now what? I don't like how they act that's it? NOPE Mel says you need to use your influence to make your relationships better. I love hjow in a world where people are so quick to cut people off, leave them behind, think you're better without [eople, let them is about bringing you TOGETHER with people. It's such a needed messave in our divided world. I am already using the ABCD loop with people I know. The other sections I liked the most: dating section (was sharing tips with my brother who is currently looking to meet someone) and who you use let them there, FRIENDSHIP section, Mel I really needed that, the comparison section is so important, and most of all I love the part about how to help loves ones who are struggling. the entire book offers such a compassionate, approch that feels so loving to both others and yourself. I thogut after following Mel for so long, I didn't know if I would learn anything new, but I learned SO MUCH. What didn't I like about it? Well honestly not much. I do wish there was more on parenting in the book, but what's cool is Mel has a bonus section in the book with a full extra chapter you can download about parenting, which I already read and that is really good, but I wish there was even more content there. but overall I just loved this book. It's given me so much to think about and work on in 2025. I also want my husband to read this, now that I read the ebook I'll give him my printbook when that arrives. Overall this was a great read and I am really glad I took the time to read it.

A book that everybody should read. At every age. It changes your whole view at life and yourself. And it brings back your energy!!

Omg...what can i say....never read anything before from mel ..its such a powerful mean book ...if you want to live a more happier free life ..you need this book...you will feel much much better and really begin to understand yourself soooo much more ..its a brilliant book of knowlege and its a cant put it down once you start to read this truly magnificiant. Book.....20/20. Rating. From me ....thanks to mel robbins herself for this book its helping me right now more than you could ever imagine ....☆☆☆☆☆ thanks to the seller too ..☆☆☆☆☆

Really enjoying reading this book in my winter vacations season. Probably one of the best books I have ever read, and mind you, I have read thousands, if not hundreds.

Very nice book i recomend to every one

Let Them will help Let YOU live better. When we start living our lives for ourselves and stop worrying about other people, we will start to be more HAPPY. Don't let the unimportant things and people in life determine the happiness we can live for and enjoy. Unhappiness is something we sometimes unconsciously choose . . . simply because we just don't know any better. Learning to "Let Them" will let you live better. William Teh Author. Retire. Investor.