Relationship Saboteurs: Overcoming the Ten Behaviors that Undermine Love

I have suffered at the hands of my family all my adult life. I had an illness I didnt know I had, a silent killer if you may.Randi Gunther put a face, a name, an understand to my illness. Though our familys love us uncoditionally, sometimes they unwittingly plant a seed or seeds that our life expierences will foster into demons in our life. I reguard no ill will toward my parents, they did the best the could. This book set me free of the bondage of self desructive behaviors I have been doing to myself all this time. I not only see my problems, but I recognize the illnesses of others, which has allowed me the compassion and empathy I need to be a true friend.If you have sruggled with passed failed relationships, as I have, this book will most likely shine the light of trueth on the common denominator, not to say you or I were solely responsible, but we were the common denominator. She speaks plainly and candidly. This book will probaly shed light on your partner if you can't explain why the more you love them the more they push you away.Finally, if you ever wondered why it's been said, watch what you say to your, or any child, this book will enlighten you, hopefully educate you.This book is not for somebody looking to blame somebody, it's for people who can look at themselves in the mirror and say, "I need help"

I read all Dr. Randi Gunther's articles on Psychology Today and just began reading her books. As a survivor of emotional abuse both in a marriage and from childhood, I find Dr. Gunther's writings are wonderful tools to aid in my transition from "surviving" to "thriving."

Believe it or not but this book restored my relationship with my man, my son, and my job. As i read this book so many hidden demons started to resurface that i had burried deep inside me for so many years. I found myself crying as i read this book because i did'nt realize that my past was holding me back from true happiness. Reading this book was like talkng to a professional. I was able to face, accept, and forgive. I am now happy and more forgiving and understanding. After 3 years me and my boyfriends love is so strong now. Me and my son are at a better place and after being at my job for almost 6 years i am now very happy and look forward to coming to work every day. Please if you are dealing with demons from your past give this book a try. It won't hurt but i promise you it will help if not save your life. I must warn you it might be a little scary because it forces you to dig deep in your past and face some scary issues that we rather forget but once facing them it gives you a better understanding of why we saboteus so many relationships with out knowing that it's you thats doing it.

Dr.Gunther has been a gifted clinical psychologist for many years.She has helped thousands of people repair broken relationships. Through her writings and her therapeutic approaches she helps people find a place in their hearts to push their understanding of themselves and their partners to new heights.Toxic Relationships are an epidemic in our country. Broken Families, broken hearts and lost dreamsdo not have to happen. Dr. Gunther offers up so many wonderful keys to unlocking our arrested emotionalcapabilities through the words and insights she has gathered over her massive amount of human understanding.This book is a must be read for everyone. We all know how many options are out there for self help and relationship quick fixes, this is not just another book.Relationships need to be valued and "worked on" on a higher level. Dr. Gunther simply offers us new tools through this fabulous book to make it possible for each of us to fully enjoy rich, romantic and meaningful relationships that will not only last but truly flourish on levels you can only understand after reading this unique book.This is a gift for people in all different chapters of their lives. Pick it up, read it, you won't be able to put it down.

Dr. Randi Gunther has written an easy to approach and easy to connect with relationship bible.It is clear in through her writing that she is a uniquely wise and extremely experienced practitioner. Throughout the book I was able to connect my experiences directly to the problems / solutions and examples she discussed. Dr. Gunther provides an alternative perspective from which to approach problems and problem solving within relationships.This book has assisted in my development. I have gained more confidence within my relationships and as a result those relationships have been strengthened. I feel more internally resolved and as a result seem to be more pleasant to be around.I would highly recommend this book to the following type of person: 1. anyone interested in strengthening their relationship with their spouse or significant other, 2. anyone interested in becoming a more confident and therefore attractive person in order to gain a spouse or significant other, 3. and anyone who enjoys benefiting themselves with valuable knowledge which can be applied to any and all relationships.So, yeah I recommend the book.

I purchased this book over 3 years ago. I was engaged to my fiancé at the time and we were going through a rough patch. We wanted to workout our problems before we got married, we went ahead and bought the book. We sat down together, going through the 10 behaviors and each identified which categories we fell under. It wasn't an easy task to do, nobody likes to be criticized and even worse, criticize themselves! After we identified those behaviors, we slowly worked on them and it helped knowing where the root behavior came from. This is not a fake review, we have now been married over 3 years and have started a family. This book saved our relationship! I highly recommend for anyone looking to change themselves or save a relationship.

Very useful book for those who need it

One of the best books I have read on relationships

good book

Very interesting in some parts but doesnt explain how to cope with things just explain how people are