Exorcism: Purging the Narcissist From Heart and Soul

A well written book that is easy to read. The author sets things out quite plainly, he mentions only briefly a couple of pertinent points that are in fact very significant: The effect of childhood wounding on creating people vulnerable to the narcissist, since we are looking for ways to unconsciously gain the love of our not good enough parent, who most likely was a narc or a sociopath, we are drawn to the narc who can not love or meet our needs, hence the tendency to revert to a childlike state - where the narc acts as the condescending, devaluing parent and us as the child who tries hard to win love and acceptance that never comes. The rejection we receive is exactly the same rejection that we received from the narc parent, it is existential pain, pain of death of being rejected and emotionally or physically abused and abandoned, hence our ability to feel deeply hurt by the narc. It is not the narc doing it, but a projection of the not good enough parent onto them. gettting involved with a narc is a good indicator that we are carrying significant unresolved issues from our childhood and recommend a good therapist to work through these issues.Additionally, we are addicted to the narc, when we meet a person who is like our parent, our brains produce dopamine, seratonin and oxytocin, hence the warm wet feeling we get during the golden stage, this is very very addictive, when the narc withdraws - we crave the neurotransmitter hit - so we work hard to get them back, the drama filled relationship causes adrenaline to be released - since we are fixed in life- death struggle with the not good enough parent. Massive high.Usually, most of us will look for another narc to give us that neurotransmitter / adrenaline hit and so the whole thing repeats with somebody else - and we build up a ton of emotional scar tissue over decades until we finally ask ourselves why our relationships have been so unfulfilling and chose to resolve our past traumas.

I wish that I had read Jewel's review, the title of which was " Totally irrelevant to all but romantic relationships" ( in the " international" section ) before purchasing this book. I am fortunate that I have never been in a romantic relationship with a narcissist, although one boyfriend appears to have had narcissistic traits. I am sure that this book would indeed prove invaluable to anyone entangled with a narcissist as a romantic partner. What I wanted was a book that would tell me how to banish all thoughts of my psychologically abusive mother from my head. She had Narcissistic Personality Disorder, something that I did not find out until after her death in 2013. Even now, thoughts keep popping back in to my head of her psychological abuse: "you are eaten up with selfishness", "you are maladjusted", " you delude yourself" all of which were untrue and were actually the projection of her own behaviours, but as a child brainwashed from my days in the cradle, an empath brought up to believe that she was scrupulously honest, I took all her lies on board and to heart. She was the most dishonest person I have ever met. I am still, therefore, waiting to find a book that will help me to exorcise her. This isn't it. Also, in a slim volume of 101 pages, there were at least 30 typos and omissions, ranging from " to given" ( give in ), "but it ( is ) such a lovely photo", " envelope you " ( envelop ). This smacks of a distinct lack of proof reading or, because it was printed in Italy, insufficient care by people who are not native English speakers.

Excellent book and resource for people who have managed to establish no contact, but are still fighting the battle with their own mind. It has helped me a lot, and I believe I am on track to total healing. I am deducting one star for the multiple spelling and grammatical errors... come on HG, I would have expected a little bit more perfectionism.... :o)

HG tells it like it is with no sugar coating. I have learned so much from him. Never again will I be narc prey!

Just the first page is very helpful!! I haven't had time to read it all but think it could be a lifesaver.a must have if you are suffering the after effects of any abuse cruelty and dark angry people who thrive on temper bullying controlling mind games.

All of HG Tudor's books , wriiten from the viewpoint of the elite Narcissist.Tells you how to spot, protect, and understand the world of the narcissist

Its an extremely tough read, but instead of reading about another persons experience, you are learning about the actual narcissist. This book is like my therapy since managing to escape.

Absolutely brilliant