Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are so Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help

You need this book. I felt completly freaked out at first. I couldn't believe these ADHD symptoms (the ones I was ignoring, fighting and dismissing) were a real phenomenon and that someonelse's experiences could be so similar to my own. I was so good at masking I actually convinced myself that ADHD wasn't a problem for me. I just buckled down and suffered all the shame, frustration and anxiety sticking my head in the sand sent my way until I was completely exhausted, confused and punched out. The book explains so much, it feels like a massive weight has been lifted off me. Its reassuring, comforting and self affirming. I recognise so much of myself in Roxy. The book is so well written and easy to read. I love the way ADHD is experienced by Roxy and by Richard so you see things from the point of view of the person with ADHD and their partner (who doesn't have ADHD). I would strongly recommend this book to anyone with any connection to ADHD including partners, friends, parents, teachers. Absolutely awesome!

I bought this book after following ADHD_love on Instagram for several months (could be a year - time blindness knows!). I've only got through the first chapter so far but I've been thinking about it the last two days and have ordered copies for two close friends who I've raved about it to. I also split a cup of coffee all over it twenty minutes after getting it out of the delivery package...but I feel like Rox and Rich would just laugh and shrug it off with me. It's like a warm bath of non judgment and hope. No regrets.

After seeing myself in every Facebook reel of Rox & Rich's ADHD_love, I had to check out this book! It's made me realise that all my little "quirks" all through my life are just some neurospicyness! I've never heard of anyone making Trampons but me 🙈.I sat in my garden reading this book, avoiding the actual task I was supposed to be doing..until the page I was reading actually said "put the book down , go do the thing your supposed to be doing". These people are in my head. It's helped me explain to my husband these things I do, the time blindness, the stimulating, the lateness, loosing things etc isn't just me being thick. I've kept the book for him to read so he can be the the Rich to my Rox!

So I bought the book .. then I realised that reading it wasn’t going to happen and that happily you both narrated the audiobook .. so I bought that too !I smiled and laughed and said ‘that’s me !!!! I also cried when I realised ‘ that’s me.. I do that. I had no idea it was an adhd thing’There's an immense relief when you finally know why some things are so incredibly hard to do and that you are not actually broken. A soul deep joy that you are not alone. You are now part of this immense family of neurodivergents and that feels … wonderfulI am 53 and have lived all my life not knowing why I thought differently to others and have always beaten myself up for things which I did / didn’t do. I felt there was something wrong with me. Everything just felt so incredibly difficult all the time- leaving the house, tackling hard tasks, getting started. I assumed I was lazy and that led to more and more self blame, anxiety and depression. WHY could I not be like everyone else ?The relief of letting go of the shame, the grief at all of those wasted years, not knowing or understanding myself. The happiness at meeting another ND person and finally realising why you ‘click’ with some immediately and become life long friends in an instant … but also allowing yourself to not feel bad when you realise that you’ve forgotten about them for ages due to object permanenceI love that you explain the situations from both angles and are so incredibly honest about how you each feltI am absolutely loving the honest and vulnerable insights into your lives. The warmth of love and the real-ness of your experiences and the love that you have for each other shines through in every chapter.So yeah. I loved it

I have a 42 year old son with ADHD, and OCD. This book was very helpful making me understand his mood swings and anxieties. He is a very loving man and always ready to help me and his dad. He also writes songs but they are more of the rap type so he is very noisy when he raps to other live music, I realize now I have to grin and bare it.I am going to put a post on Facebook to get other people caring for an ADHDer to also read this book

Loved this book, it’s was refreshing to read the highs and lows of having adhd from a genuine person and the effect it’s had on them and others throughout their life. It was extremely relatable and made me think about how many issues I had growing up that were probably down to having this condition. It also helped me see things from the other side and how I can help my own spouse and children with this condition and put strategies and understanding into place. It’s was easy to ready and engaging. I follow the couple on tik tok and the book didn’t disappoint.

When I first started reading this book I thought, this isn't me at all. I've never slept on my doorstep because I locked myself out of the house. Then I remembered, oh yes, that's because I smashed a pane of window in the door when I locked myself out, or asked a work colleague or neighbour to help me break in. While we are on the subject, I cannot recall when the bra I am wearing was last washed. Maybe this book is for me after all.True, I don't miss trains or flights...ever...but I did realise whilst reading this I have been relying on hyper-anxiety to get me where I need to be, usually 2 hours early, and that is not healthy. No wonder I am so exhausted all the time.I did briefly say to myself "I'm never late", but I could hear my entire family laughing uproariously in my head at that notion and quickly came back down to reality.I devoured this book in a couple of hours and felt my perspective of myself and my adhd shift enormously.I'm awarding myself a huge pat on the back for actually getting around to reviewing this book (rather than just doing it in my head and forgetting to post any review). Well done me.Thanks for the excellent book Richard and Rox. It's a game changer for me, no exaggeration.