Grappling: White Men's Journey from Fragile to Agile Paperback – April 30, 2021

Horning has written a beautifully thoughtful, well written and powerful book about the dilemma that many men find themselves in and don’t know how to make peace with themselves. He is transparent about his own personal journey and shares it from a place of compassion. He is so relatable and shares many excellent tools and practices to build resilience and compassion for yourself and others. The book is timely and necessary! I highly encourage not just men, but also women, who are grappling with their identity or who want to know more about how to move from tentative or fragile living into resilience to read this book.

Written with intelligence, caring, purpose, humility, and personal reflection, Andrew Horning's book Grappling: White Men's Journey from Fragile to Agile, challenges the reader to go deeper in perspective, understanding, and self-reflection about complex social and racial issues confronting our society and the world in general. Mr. Horning's book is timely and provides an useful framework to assist in navigating though these current, significant challenges. This is an honest, unflinching book that I wholeheartedly recommend to a broad range of readers.

This is an important book for THIS moment. Horning challenges us to grapple with the feelings we shove down, but also to grapple with the injustices around us. He bares his soul, giving lots of stories from his own life where he screwed up, and the process of dealing with it (rather than ignoring it) it was actually sets you free to fully live.Part Brene Brown and part Ijeoma Oluo, you want to read about the long bike ride that set him free and what he learns about himself after being on the front page of the local news as a result of a rash decision.As a white woman, I appreciate his acknowledgment of where men can fall short in respecting us, but also where I fall short in acknowledging my role as being interconnected with other marginalized groups, and the need to be engaged to shift the structures.

​I highly recommend this book as a refreshing next step in moving beyond white privilege, but I recommend it even more for its challenge to each of us to take stock of our own lives and become agents for change. ​ ​The ​author, Andy Horning, ​lays out the ​steps necessary ​to ​complete ​this important work, and Andy uses years of personal experiences to provide a transformative journey. Andy's impassioned plea is for all of us to break down the barriers we have built around ourselves, get honest with each other, and interact with all human beings as unique and equal individuals. I am excited about the tools Andy presents, and I know I will return to the book often as I work to become more personally agile and intentional in my life​.

I don't know what there is to say it's just not good. It doesn't have anything really to do with what it says it's about it's just boring and bad.

So my wife orders Grappling to give to someone we know who needs to read it. I grabbed it to skim over beforehand. At first I did just that, then, began to read more slowly, and finally to a crawl, reading several sections more than one time. I got a lot out of the book, so much so that I am ordering four more copies for family and friends. Any good book not only has a punch to it, but reads easily. I found myself getting through some sections in seemingly seconds, even though I was seeing every word. That’s a very high compliment, you had better believe. Anyway, congratulations on your outstanding achievement.

Andy is the OG of feelings! 👊

This book is great. It pushes white men to step outside their comfort zone and take a look at their life and privilege from a different perspective. If anyone lives a life of privilege, often they may become unaware of perspectives outside theirs and even unable to empathize due to falling short of thinking outside of themselves. This book allows a deep introspection and a reality check. It may be uncomfortable for many, but in this case the discomfort will contribute to personal growth. This book is great and it must be read.