Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd Edition (Rebuilding Books; For Divorce and Beyond) Paperback – November 1, 1999

I'm half way through this book and I believe that this book is exceptional. It's like you are at a therapy session, it's very informative and insightful. It has helped me through the emotions and pitfalls that many of fall into over and over. It takes you step by step on how to understand your feeling and deal with them rather than pushing them aside and bottling them inside.Many of the feeling that I experienced are addressed directly in the book, so you don't feel like your going crazy and losing your mind. When at times you can feel that way. It has truly helped me get stronger and stronger every day. I have been going to a therapist for the last year before reading this book, but this book helps build off everything that I've been learning about myself and my relationship. It really recaps and encompasses the whole relationship in a nutshell. It's not a warm and fuzzy book and its not impractical either, it's real text that you can apply and relate to.I highly recommend this book!

while separating from my love partner of 25 years, I found myself going thru so many different feelings that it became overwhelming and paralyzing. I also felt isolated, and reviews of this book continually said how it seemed to know exactly what they were feeling and going thru. And I have to say -- that is probably the best part of the book. At times I felt that he was speaking directly to me. He ever so gently helps you to really look at yourself and the relationship for what it really is/was and then guides you thru the process of rebuilding your confidence, esteem, power and joy, all at your own pace. The book is probably most helpful to the "dumpee" -- although he does address what's going on with the "dumper" too. For me, having more insight into what was going on with my partner helped me see things a little better from the other side, understand what was happening to me, and bring confusion and anger closer to understanding and compassion. Reading this book was a very calming force for me, and I recommend it to anyone who is ending a relationship.

If you are happen to be in the misfortune of divorce then this is the best book! I'm so happy I found it. Divorce is one of the toughest things I've ever experienced so it is really nice to find guidance and to know that many of the things and thoughts that cross through your mind are not that crazy after all!!! This book has even prepared me to know what to expect during this process. Sometimes I even had to laugh when I was not yet starting a certain chapter but already going through that phase, let's say the anger phase and then I would see exactly that chapter to follow in my book so it is like a relief to know that it is not you are really getting crazy but just walking through the mud and hopefully finding the shore soon.Im still not done with my divorce but definitely this is book has help me so much to give me that extra strength (together with therapy) and not only to go through the s***ty part of divorce but prepare me as well to think about what went wrong, what can you do to improve yourself, move on, evolve and learn from the mistake. So five stars to this book!!

One of the great things about this type of book - when you really need it because you are hurting so much and feel so alone - is that you derive some comfort from the fact that you're going through something that millions have gone through before and, for the most part, survived. Each major element of the rebuilding process is taken in turn, and while you may or may not appreciate the "building block" metaphor it serves ably enough to structure the book in bite-sized pieces. Everyone will find some resonance here and there, and equally I suspect most people will find gaps they will need to explore more using other resources. To that end the bibliography and list of useful websites is a great resource, and of course there's always the Internet. Personally I found the chapter on sexuality to be the least informed and the least helpful (because the most squeamish), but the book is oriented to an American audience so the treatment is probably appropriate for the vast majority of readers. All in all, this is a very good primer for the basics of how to get yourself back into reasonable emotional shape after the awful trauma of a break-up, and as such should definitely be close to hand during the worst times.

Love this book. If you are going through a separation or divorce, PLEASE read this book. It will help you, I promise. This book was written many years ago and remains a classic. It provides a sort of step-by-step guide to hep you go through the loss of a spouse or a significant other (not through death but through a break-up). It is well written and easy to understand. In my opinion, it is not psycho-babble. The book is down to earth and honestly truthful. Best wishes!

Once in a while a book comes along that changes the way you think. We all know that at some point a relationship we are in will come to an end. Sometimes this happens without us knowing. When Long term relationships end, we are left empty. This book will help you fill in the Gaps. Read this book carefully. Reflect on each chapter as you read the book. This book will help you re-build your life. Always remember Love comes again. A failed relationship does not define who you are. If you want to change the person you are, it takes work. You have to be honest with yourself, you have to look deep within yourself to discover the person you are. But more important you have to be willing to change the negative habits from your past relationship. This book will help you find the new you.

Helped me emmensly when I when through a heartbreaking breakup by someone years ago. I always recommend this book if someone I know is going through a breakup.AWSOME BOOK!

Muy buen libro para salir de la depresión de una ruptura amorosa, es una buena guía, mejor si toman un curso de cierre de heridas amorosas

I picked this book up after re-entering a deep depression phase 3 years after my husband left me. I felt hopeless and was very frustrated to be feeling so low and going through another round of pain and anguish years after the breakdown of the relationship. It may be a cliche, but it was extremely helpful to read the book and realise that my feelings were "normal" and experienced by others. There is very good, sensible advice and a number of illustrative examples of how people react (mentally / emotionally as well as in action) at various stages in the rebuilding process. It also provides perspectives from both the "dumpee" and the "dumper". Having read multiple books over the last few years to try to come to terms with my divorce, this has been one of the most helpful by far.

This book has been my paper back therapist during my divorce. IT IS GOLD! I read it over a month, a few pages at a time, and if anything, my mental health, resilience, self-confidence and appetite for personal growth has improved tremendously over that time, even eclipsing what I had before the divorce. I cannot emphasize enough the benefits of reading this book if you are going through a major breakup (married or long term relationship)

Although this book was written before I was born, it felt like it's written for me! This book is vital for anyone who's had a relationship breakdown. Built in stages you read through each stage of how you feel. Sometimes you put the book down and wait until you are ready to pick it up again. This book will change your way of thinking. It's something you will alway pick up and dip back into. Highly recommend and I've brought a few for friends who have had a breakup too.