F*ck No!: How to Stop Saying Yes When You Can't, You Shouldn't, or You Just Don't Want To (A No F*cks Given Guide, 5)

I live with a husband who has no trouble with this two-letter word, but I find it hard to tell him "NO." Not anymore.I immediately went to the "Family" section and can't believe it has taken me so long to figure this out. No more, thanks to the anti-guru, Sarah Knight. She witty, doesn't take herself too seriously and in this case, better than therapy and cheaper, too! My husband is in big trouble now. "So Sorry, I just can't get to that right now." "Sweetheart, you're standing right next to the light switch and I know you can handle turning off the lights, so I'm not getting up from my chair." NOT SORRY. Thank you, Sarah!

Thank you, Sarah Knight! You’ve given us more tools to help us take back our lives and stop feeling guilty about it! Being honest about what we don’t want to do is a kindness to everyone involved! This fantastic tome will take its place on my shelf next to the other books in this humorous and helpful group. I honestly will re-read and consult this and the other books in the series to keep my skills sharp! This book was fun to read but also really helpful at the same time. I hope this author keeps helping us help ourselves!

I'm only a beginner but I'm getting better. There is hope in recovery.

I don’t read many self-help books, mainly because in my experience they are usually repetitive and patronising collections of personal anecdotes and tortuous reworkings of the central premise (usually the title), padded out over 300 pages. However, I saw this on NetGalley and decided it was an area I could use some help with, and found it an amusing light-hearted guide to navigating personal relationships, which doesn’t take itself too seriously, that I will probably re-read in future.This turns out to be the fifth book in the author’s “No F***s Given Guides” which began with “The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F***” which I had heard of but conflated in my mind with “The Subtle Art if Not Giving a F***” - I imagine these two best-sellers cover similar territory but had not read either, for reasons stated above. I haven’t read Marie Kondo either although do like her lesson on how to fold a T-shirt. Having clearly found a market, Sarah Knight has gone on to explore related areas like getting organised and celebrating your individuality, and this time she tackles that seemingly innocuous but surprisingly difficult challenge that we all face: saying no!Explaining that people who have difficulty saying No fall in to four different personality types - People pleasers, Overachievers, FOMO and Pushovers - or combinations thereof (surprise surprise I’m all of these), she starts by exploring the reasons why we have such difficulty turning down requests, be they from colleagues, friends, family or even complete strangers. She breaks these down into chapters with plenty of examples and a few well-chosen and not-too-annoying anecdotes. I like her writing style but if the liberal use of the F-word offends you, you should buy a different book. (Similarly Trump-supporters and the highly religious should skip this one.)Reading this made me reflect that I have already become a lot better at saying No - to extra work-shifts, to requests to borrow money, to loaning things, but it’s the way I feel about it afterwards - sleepless nights, anxiety about the impact on my relationships, angst about being a bad person... so I think the no-nonsense way she points out that other people aren’t necessarily thinking what you think they are, very helpful. I’m even going to apply this to my reviewing - just because an author or publisher I’ve never heard of reaches out to ask me to review their novel, doesn’t mean I have to...Yes it gets repetitive, but that didn’t bother me as the general idea is to learn how to use the same principles in different situations - deciding when to reject/decline a request, being polite and/or honest about it, backing yourself and avoiding the associated guilt (the bit I struggle with the most) - which as she points out is mostly self-inflicted. Having stock phrases ready in advance, buying yourself time when caught unprepared, suggested ways of softening your rejection, were all concepts that seem very obvious but made a lot of sense to me. I am actually now tempted to read TLCMONGAF!My thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the arc which allowed me to give an honest review.

*the awkward moment when your therapist recommends that you read this book and you remember you have it in your pile of overdue arcs.* There's nothing better than doing therapy homework AND taking care of an overdue arc! I feel like I read this at the right time to really let the message sink in and this is a book I think everyone would get something from."It's your right to live on your own terms. you can opt out of events, tasks, expenditures, obligations, or even relationships that don't make you happy, and you needn't feel guilty for doing so."I love this book. The narrative style. The puns. The snark. The flowcharts! Not only does this book delve into the various ways we can say no with hundreds of examples to choose from, but gets deep with the various reasons why we feel obligated to say yes. Are you an overachiever? A people-pleaser? A FOMO-er? Depending on your own personality, Knight gives examples to counter the inner voice in our heads saying we should do the thing we don't want to. And that it's okay to say no."Feeling guilty even when you haven't done anything wrong is a common conundrum. But take heart, for these are precisely the mental shackles from which F*ck No! attempts to free you!"Fun and lighthearted, Knight's tone feels like a friend giving you advice. (I also just loved the near page of Pepsi bashing.) I particularly appreciated and bookmarked the negotiation & coworker sections; I expect I'll refer to it next time my internet provider tries to increase my rate!eARC provided by the publisher on Netgalley for review. This does not impact my opinion or content of my review. Quotations are from an unfinished proof and subject to change upon final publication.

Yes, yes and more yes! If you are a people pleaser (me!), You need this book and the tips Sarah gives. She literally gives scenarios for a lot of life's uncomfortable questions, favors and situations that you may find yourself in. Sometimes it's not always that you can't say yes, you literally just don't want to! And Sarah gives gentle urging to let you know that it is okay to say NO just because your don't want to do something! I'm a yes person and have always spread myself too thin because I don't want to disappoint people, but I've really been working on saying no simply because I don't have to say yes if I don't want to. I look forward to seeing if Sarah has other books. I loved her witty, outspoken and downright honest way of writing.

This is a one-trick pony, totally repetitious, unfunny, and no real point. It might have enough material for an article, but certainly not for a book. Her first book was amusing. This is a diatribe or tantrum, childishly going for shock value by using a bad word. Sorry. After the first 10 times it's not shocking, just boring.

The whole book is a repetition of the title itself. The author tries too hard and thinks she's funny (which she isn't).I expected this book to be a lot better... I feel like the author is just writing books to make money. I bet all her books talk about the same thing.