Exorcism: Purging the Narcissist From Heart and Soul

I loved this book & it really helped me heal from multiple abusive relationships I’ve been in. Everything he says about them being embedded into your spirit is true. I felt ashamed that I still think about & long to be with my abuser. This book helped me understand why & how to break the chains that have tied me to people that hurt me.

Good primer on how to purge the narcissistic person from your life. However until one comes to grips that these types of ‘people’ exist and that we meant nothing to them.... it’s rough sailing- but once you accept that- and realize it wasn’t personal and the new person they likely ditched you for-is in for the same bullsht - very soon-(unless that person is willing to put up with the crazy crap we did for mich longer than a year or so)you will begin to heal - read HG Tudor, and the book “from Charm to Harm” and Shahidi Arabi’s books! And well read Melanie Tonia Evans’ work online as well. HG has a great website too and his book Fuel is a goodie that sums up our place in the NPD persons world. HG’s books are often somewhat a collection from his website essays. If you are in the throes of narcissistic abuse- visiting his site and reading the essays and comments and commenting perhaps so you can purge and validate- can be very therapeutic. It took me a good six months even though I had researched my ex for a couple of years and I knew what I would diagnose them with and I was told by her previous ex- exactly what I surmised-I was rather brainwashed him trapped in a cycle of manipulative behavior and until I went 100% no contact- it was hard for me to really fathom the immense deception I had entangled myself in. And that was really hard to swallow. It was devastating. It was shocking and really hard to wrap my mind around that such a robotic evil person was all that I was involved with. It’s very clear like some other reviewer‘s have said these entities operate in exactly the same manner across the world. They are operating from a deep sense of defense of their false self image and they will do anything to protect it. I am very empathetic and I sensed very early on this person was very false and shallow yet I stuck around and try to fix them. And then I got trapped in the intermittent reinforcement and the cognitive dissonance it’s very mind bending. Anyways HG is a great resource it was hard to read some of his very direct essays early on But it’s the only way that any of it makes any sense is to believe it’s true they really do not care one iota about you as a human being. And the sooner you realize that the sooner you can walk away and heal yourself. PS HG also does consultations via email or audio.

I appreciate the author’s frankness and found much of it helpful. I would have liked to hear more about the devaluation phase and “why” the narcissist does what they do. To me the devaluation phase was the more permanent damage caused by the abuse, not the discard itself. The narc voices you hear in your head ruminating over and over that you are worthless is the most horrific part of it all. It’s worth readying is you were abused.

"Exorcism" is a great book that gives a very in-depth, but easy-to-understand explanation of how one becomes seduced, devalued, and discarded by a narcissist..I purchased and read this book because I wanted to lose the lingering emotional connection I feel I have with the narcissist in my life, who is the father of two of my children.. I have known him for 12+ years and it just feels as though the love I have for him in my heart will not die, despite all of the terrible treatment he has directed towards me throughout the years.. This book discusses plausible and practical tactics necessary to remove the association of the narcissist in your life.. The aftermath effects make COMPLETE sense.. I could literally come up with dozens of causal actions in my personal, unique experience with my narcissist and then figure out how the aftermath effects indeed have their effect on me currently.. For me, the deletion was not difficult.. Ever since reading an article about Ever Presence on Narcsite.com, I performed deletion with ease.. My emotional thinking does not keep me holding on to moments of the “golden period”--rather, my emotional thinking heavily consists of times I was constantly and brutally devalued by my narcissist, therefore, I stay consumed in emotional suffering.. The section discussing how you must stay A.R.M.E.D and distract yourself with literal physical actions makes complete sense to me and I will be trying this from here on out.. This book is very concise, clear, and it discusses practical answers to lingering questions that go unanswered by the narcissist you may have become entangled with.. It also discusses the practical solutions to “emotional” problems.. It may take an extended time period, considerable effort, and practice, but it is possible to purge the narcissist from your heart and soul.. Thank you so much, H G, for your work!

As with any addiction, you need to find a way to form better habits to help steer you away from your particular vice. For me, that vice was toxic relationships. In HG Tudor’s book Exorcism, HG explains, in an easy to understand manner, why the narcissistic dynamic is so addictive and then offers practical solutions to help combat the compulsive behaviours that keep you wanting to connect with the narcissist.Exorcism is a very useful tool that you can always come back to when you need to sharpen and strengthen your defences. Well worth the price!

Muy buen libro y con su propia idiosincracia como todos los de este autor.

Un narcisista che scrive come “ragiona”. Niente di più utile

A well written book that is easy to read. The author sets things out quite plainly, he mentions only briefly a couple of pertinent points that are in fact very significant: The effect of childhood wounding on creating people vulnerable to the narcissist, since we are looking for ways to unconsciously gain the love of our not good enough parent, who most likely was a narc or a sociopath, we are drawn to the narc who can not love or meet our needs, hence the tendency to revert to a childlike state - where the narc acts as the condescending, devaluing parent and us as the child who tries hard to win love and acceptance that never comes. The rejection we receive is exactly the same rejection that we received from the narc parent, it is existential pain, pain of death of being rejected and emotionally or physically abused and abandoned, hence our ability to feel deeply hurt by the narc. It is not the narc doing it, but a projection of the not good enough parent onto them. gettting involved with a narc is a good indicator that we are carrying significant unresolved issues from our childhood and recommend a good therapist to work through these issues.Additionally, we are addicted to the narc, when we meet a person who is like our parent, our brains produce dopamine, seratonin and oxytocin, hence the warm wet feeling we get during the golden stage, this is very very addictive, when the narc withdraws - we crave the neurotransmitter hit - so we work hard to get them back, the drama filled relationship causes adrenaline to be released - since we are fixed in life- death struggle with the not good enough parent. Massive high.Usually, most of us will look for another narc to give us that neurotransmitter / adrenaline hit and so the whole thing repeats with somebody else - and we build up a ton of emotional scar tissue over decades until we finally ask ourselves why our relationships have been so unfulfilling and chose to resolve our past traumas.

Very insightful on Narcissism and why they do the things they do.