The Alabaster Girl Paperback – December 14, 2013

I’ve felt the powerful force of attraction ever since I was in elementary school. I vividly remember this adorably beautiful little girl who sat on the chair directly to my right. Her golden blond hair, her creamy-fair complexion, her melodic voice, and even the fragrance she radiated. Her mother seemed to adore her enough to ensure that her skin was always covered in a thin layer of strawberry-scented lotion before leaving home, every morning. Of course, I was too young to know anything about the opposite sex. But what didn’t require my conceptual understanding was what that little girl made me feel within. Nothing sexual. We were much too young to even know what that was. It was Pure and Unadulterated MAGIC!The problem was that fate assigned me to a painfully shy father. A man plagued with a collection of paralyzing fears, and an acute identification with the sense of not being good enough. Unconsciously, these psychological splinters would become my inheritance.And to add insult to injury, the growth-spurt-bus, during my teens, seemed to have missed my stop! My body threw in the towel at 5 feet 6 inches! I had so much inner tension and chaos that my face would break out into a landmine of beet-red pimples! The skin of my face always felt oily, and nothing that I tried worked to vanish my acne problem! My cousins experienced great joy in calling me “pizza face.” And as if things couldn’t get any worse, I couldn’t gain any weight! I remember weighing about 114 pounds in high school! That’ girl weight!It was as if I lived my teens in a hot desert surrounded by tall glasses of ice cold lemonade. An abundance of beads streaking down the sides of each beautiful hourglass-shaped glass. And I couldn’t have one sip! Can you think of a greater torture? One day, out of sheer desperation, I asked one of my cousins for help. I could tell that he was good with women, because he often sported a different one under his arm. He let me borrow a book entitled: Love Tactics. It was the first book on seduction that I'd ever read. In no time, the list grew:The Mystery Method, by Mystery.The Game, by Neil Strauss.The Natural, by Richard La Ruina.Practical Female Psychology, by Joseph S, et al.Mode One, by Allan Currie.And so many others that have since abandoned my shelves, never to return.None of these rulers worked. In fact, in a certain way of looking at things, they made matters even worse. I found that I gained confidence in approaching women, some that I would never have approached otherwise, but the interactions ALWAYS resulted in self-sabotage! The fighter-jet that thought it had earned top-gun status, always spiraled and crashed!What was the problem?I know that you, reading these words, are an intelligent person. I am not as smart as you, so, I need to put things very simply. Imagine that a man’s favorite tool is a RULER. We love to measure things. Simply, the ruler symbolizes our penchant for LOGIC. We are wired to lean more towards that direction. Things have to MAKE SENSE to us. Robert Pirsig explained it perfectly in his best-seller, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. There is a reason why more men are attracted to things like construction and mechanics, than women are. Anyway, I don’t want to stray from my point.Staying with our imagination, now imagine that a woman’s favorite tool is a THERMOMETER. Like a Ruler symbolizes Logic for us, a Thermometer symbolizes EMOTION for them (women). Things have to FEEL RIGHT.Now, imagine diving deep into the ocean with your ruler in hand, trying to measure the temperature at the nucleus of this vast Ocean (Female Heart). Could you do it? NO! You will never be able to measure temperature with a ruler!The list of books mentioned above are grounded on this type of confusion. They are basically telling you how to measure temperature with a ruler! “The more phone numbers you get, the more successful you are,” they tell ya! "See this big horizontal line, it is called a neg.” “Wear a pink five gallon hat on your head and pencil in black eye-liner and see if they don’t pay attention to you, ma man!” The ruler gurus say.One last analogy, which revealed itself after so many painful and embarrassing failures.Imagine sitting on a huge boulder near a rocky coast. When the ocean current approaches and slaps upon the rocks, it creates a mighty splash of seawater. You take out your phone and point its camera towards the splash. Every time that the ocean current sends its arm splashing onto the coastal rocks, you snap a picture of the outcome. A mighty splash-paytern rising towards the sky. When you’ve taken about five pictures, you take a look at each, swiping to the next, then the next, until the last. Would the splash patterns be identical in each picture?NO! No two pictures of the resulting splash-patterns will ever be the same! And that, mi amigo, is why the list of books above, and so, so many like them, can NEVER work! The human psyche (be it male or female) is much too complex!Every woman beautifying our earth has experienced a very unique and individual life pattern, resulting in both highs and lows. Triumphs and traumas, reactions and surrenders. All of the utter nonsense of: push-pull. Cat-string theory, negging, IOIs, and whatever other nerdy nonsense is now in vogue, are like trying to measure the splash-pattern protrusions!…Nonsense, I tell ya!Zan’s book differentiates itself from the ones written by nerds who can’t even imagine what temperature is, in that he dives directly into the very nucleus of the female heart, and takes us along. And what a landscape! The deeper you go into the book, the more you forget that you left your ruler stuck between two rocks back at shore.I”ve read Zan’s book three times so far. Has it given me any results? We do read for a reason, right?Well, it happens so subtly that you only become conscious of it when you see that there are three or four beauties surrounding you. All basking in the summer-rays of your attention. All happy to be in your presence. It's truly fascinating because as you dive into the ocean that Goethe called, “The Eternal Feminine,” bound towards its nucleus, you become a powerful center-of-gravity, yourself! An embodiment of a mantra in Zan’s book: “a man who loves women, is loved by them.”I wish that I could see what that little guerita, so long ago, has blossomed into! I wish that I could dive deep into the chambers of her heart and marvel at how the furniture has been arranged, the color coordinations, the paintings hanging on her walls...the WHOLE her.

Zan Perrion's The Alabaster Girl is not just a book; it’s a transformative journey for any man seeking to understand women, himself, and the magic that exists in the dance between the two.I came to this book after a tough personal chapter—divorce and separation from my ex. Like many men in similar situations, I was bitter, angry, and disillusioned. I was told to be the "nice guy," and I followed the script society handed me. But that script failed me. I became a man my ex lost attraction to. When she moved on, I was left confused, questioning everything I thought I knew about women and relationships.For a moment, I considered hating women—a tempting, but ultimately destructive, path that some content leads you toward. The Alabaster Girl corrected that.This book opened my eyes to what it means to truly love and appreciate women, not as objects of conquest or sources of validation but as the incredible, beautiful creatures they are. It’s not about becoming a “bad boy” or abandoning kindness—it’s about being a man women are drawn to because of his strength, confidence, and deep appreciation for their essence.If you’re a “nice guy” like I was, this book will teach you how to shed the passivity and fear that make you invisible to women. It will show you how to be the kind of man who makes a woman feel like a “girl” again, no matter her age—a man who invites her into a shared adventure.Zan Perrion writes with a poetic voice that feels like he’s speaking directly to your soul. He doesn’t hand out cheap tricks or manipulative tactics; he delivers wisdom rooted in authenticity and love. If you already love women, this book will teach you how to love them better. If you’re struggling with anger or resentment, it will help you find the beauty in every woman and reignite your own spark of attraction.And here’s the truth: your “girl” is out there. She’s waiting for you to step into your true masculine essence. And the best part? There’s not just one; the world is full of women who are looking for their man—your job is to show up as him.If you’re ready for a shift in perspective, a rekindling of hope, and a profound understanding of women, read The Alabaster Girl. You’ll thank yourself—and so will the women in your life.