How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief

Has helped me thru my grieving. A good way of writing things down if you have a hard time talking.

A companion book to Ms. Divine's "It's OK That You're Not Okay", this is a practical day to day help for those experiencing the grief of losing someone to death. Such losses are in the category of being unfixable, but this volume, especially for those early in the grief process, helps one walk an incredibly hard path, becoming a member of a community no one voluntarily joined. Once one has loved someone, the love remains though the person is gone. One adjusts to a forever new way of being oneself, but at a much deeper level.

Thank you Megan Devine.If you are grieving over the loss of someone you hold most dear? Too precious, and your heart, too tender, to feel understood? This is helpful. This is soo helpful. I don’t think this is a journal one can use for awhile though, not while you are still screaming about a loss so deep you still can’t breathe… but in time. I also have her book, so that’s why I feel I can write that. I love the author. I love that she shared things I feel, inside her book, “It’s OK That You’re Not Ok”. Clearly, her pain came to her as brutally as I feel mine. I am indebted to Megan Devine. I felt as if I was no longer allowed by others to express my sadness and hole, this place in our bed, the intimate conversations and moments, where my husband once was. She made me feel validated. I know that it will still be a long time till I’m not crying everyday. It’s brutal and feels so cruel to me. But at least I know that someone gets it and I don’t feel so alone because of that. Her advice towards the end of her book is to reach out to the “tribe”. I’m not ready for that but at least I have her books. Thank you Megan.UPDATE: I ordered this, again, a couple days ago because I’m struggling. I had to return my copy before because just the thought of filling out a journal about my precious, beautiful husband overwhelmed me.Today, I went to a home improvement store. I really have not gone anywhere since I lost my husband 9 months ago.The world feels strange now and I had a hard time just sliding my credit card. “Where does my card go in the machine again?” I asked.Do I have to be ok now? I’m not and I just don’t see how I ever will be, so I ordered this and it was on my porch when I got home.The first page I opened the book to said, “How can people just carry on, like nothing has happened?”I just burst into tears! That’s exactly how I felt at the home improvement store. I found myself wanting to tell people. But you know, they just wouldn’t know what to say to me.Someone gets it though. Megan Devine gets it, so she wrote this journal.Thank you Megan Define.

As someone who has never truly experienced loss, I was anxious when my girlfriend’s dog (who was basically the first pet I truly loved) was diagnosed with cancer and 3 months to live. I ordered this a few days after he had to put him down because I didn’t know what to do with myself, my thoughts, etc. This workbook has been a blessing in guiding me through the grief process. I’ve only made it a quarter of the way through and am still slowly working on it, but I’d definitely recommend this to anyone, whether it’s their first loss or their hundredth. It really helps in letting your emotions out instead of keeping them bottled up.

I bought this book after losing my Mother - it is a beautiful book and so well made. I have enjoyed reading it and doing the sections where you fill in bits with colouring and also writing in your feelings. It's beautifully written and designed and I highly recommend it. It's comforting for those who are grieving.

It has very helpful ideas to help a person cope with grief.

Excellent readingGreat for people with loss

Great read for anyone dealing with mental health struggles. Very relatable and written in a matter of fact tone but also relates to real life experience. Also recommend the other book by this author!